Relationships

Hello everyone,

I’m going to start by saying a big thank you to the few people who have actually encouraged me in one way or the other. Its been mostly people who know me personally, I say thank you! Also, you beautiful readers who come on my blog everyday, thank you so much! Knowing that I have readers and people like me who are hungry for the word of God is one of the things that keep me going πŸ˜‰ My purpose here on earth is to draw people closer to God and this is what I aim to achieve Amen. Please feel free to leave comments on the blog, if there’s any topic U’d like me to blog about let me know plz. Also, feel free to share some of your favourite gospel songs with me thank you!

Today, we are discussing relationships! πŸ™‚ I’m assuming that we go into relationships because we want to get married in the long run right? Now, I know some of us are quite young and are not exactly thinking much about marriage at the moment.. I find myself talking about relationships and marriage so much even though I’m far from ready for it. Personally, I want to be financially, spiritually, emotionally,.. ready. I don’t think you can be fully prepared for marriage obviously but I just need to make sure certain things are in place. I’m only 21, and being the last born I kind of feel very young despite my age πŸ˜› so marriage can wait for now πŸ™‚

BUT, that doesn’t mean I’m not getting prepared for it. There are so many preparations which we need to make whether or not we are ready for such a huge commitment. For example, going home after a lecture at school and studying doesn’t necessarily mean its because you have an exam tomorrow but because you need to increase your knowledge so that when its time for the exam, you are confident! The same applies to marriage!Β So how do we get prepared?

First and foremost don’t be needy! Β You don’t always have to be in a relationship in fact being single is an advantage sometimes… You can see things clearly, and you get to know people for who they really are or at least to an extent πŸ™‚ You’ve just been through a break up? Give yourself time to heal!

When you are not in a hurry to have a new partner, you will be willing to get to know people as friends… You see the kind of foundation you build from the very start matters a lot! Are you going to build your relationship on sand or on a rock? When we get to know people as friends first, we can then decide if their CHARACTER is something we can handle in a relationship PS: there is a big difference between personality and character. Think of personality as the outer skin of an onion which you peel off and character, the actual onion! If you don’t get to know people first and just jump to getting physical with them (which we shouldn’t be doing anyway! -this is another day’s topic) you are playing with your heart. Guard the affections of ur heart guys. The emotional attachments we make determine the course of our life (paraphrased from Proverbs 4:23)

There is sooo much to talk about when it comes to relationships so I’ll leave you guys with one more advice and leave the rest for another post πŸ˜› One of my favourite Pastors on dating issues, Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo, in one of his messages said that unbelievers may date unbelievers and actually have a good relationship. If two people have the same vision, they can agree and work together right? Now as believers, why date an unbeliever? If you are born again I don’t see why you should be dating someone who isn’t. Oh you are going to change them? Right. Have you finished working on that bad habit you’ve been trying to change since forever? Lol I have to sound like this because I care a lot about you guys whether or not I know you personally. This is an area I’m working on as well and God is my strength.. I get stronger everyday and I have to take you guys along with me πŸ˜€

It also doesn’t mean that all the regular attendees in your church will be good for you. This is what prayer is for! Communicate with God. A father will never allow his child go astray. Don’t be afraid to talk to God, he is our friend, our daddy, our everything! Β At this point in my life, as young as I am πŸ˜› I actually do not have the time for trial and error relationships. Ah let me date him and if it doesn’t work, there are many other fishes in the ocean. Oh really? *sarcastic smiley* All that time spent with the wrong person, I can spend on other things such as growing in Christ πŸ˜€ working my way to the top in my career πŸ˜€ loving my family even more πŸ˜€ etc. So please guys, lets be wise!

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